Reframing My Expectations as a Dad with ASD Kids

Jun 26, 2023

Being a dad is tough, but being a dad with ASD kids is a whole new level of challenge. As someone who has been there, I know what it's like to feel overwhelmed and unsure of how to handle certain situations. However, I've found that reframing my expectations has been a game-changer when it comes to parenting my ASD children.

Understanding My Children's Needs

One of the biggest changes I made was to stop expecting my children to behave like neurotypical kids. Instead, I took the time to learn more about ASD and how it affects their behavior. This helped me to understand their needs better and adjust my expectations accordingly.

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Communicating Effectively

Communication can be a challenge when you have ASD kids, but it's not impossible. I found that using visual aids like pictures or social stories helped my children to understand what was expected of them. It also helped me to communicate more effectively with them.


Embracing the Differences

As a dad, it's easy to get caught up in comparing your children to others. However, I've learned that embracing their differences is key to reframing my expectations. My children may not be like their peers, but that doesn't mean they're any less valuable or capable.

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Asking for Help

Parenting is hard, and parenting ASD kids can be even harder. It's okay to ask for help when you need it. Whether it's from a therapist, support group, or family member, having a support system can make all the difference.

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Celebrating the Wins

Finally, it's important to celebrate the wins, no matter how small they may seem. As a dad with ASD kids, it can be easy to focus on the challenges and forget about the progress. Taking the time to celebrate the wins can help to keep you motivated and positive.

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Reframing my expectations as a dad with ASD kids has been a journey, but it's one that has been well worth it. By understanding my children's needs, communicating effectively, embracing the differences, asking for help, and celebrating the wins, I've been able to become a better dad and advocate for my children.

I want you to take the lessons my boys have taught me and apply it to your world. 

We all have our own path in life, and it's essential to remember that we are not competing with anyone other than ourselves. It's easy to get caught up in the comparison game, but it's important to avoid that trap. Instead, focus on finding the best way that suits you.

Throughout my life, I've learned that trying to be someone I'm not or following someone else's path only leads to frustration and disappointment. That's why I encourage you to take your own road. Explore your interests and passions, and don't be afraid to try new things.

It's crucial to remember that what works for someone else might not work for you. Everyone has their unique strengths and weaknesses, and that's okay

The most important thing is to be kind to yourself, stay focused on your goals, and be open to learning from your experiences.